DreamStep # 5 – Dealing with Your Doubter
This DreamStep on how to deal with your doubter is the favorite of many of my students. Watch this video to see why:
Action Step:
Think about your dream and open up for a short time to the voice of your doubter. Create a bulleted list of the obstacles specific to that dream. Then go back and look at each item in your list and ask yourself for each item: Is it a belief? Mark those with a “B”. Or is it something that requires a strategy? Mark those with an “S”. Indeed, you are creating a B.S. list!
Yes, obstacles are real. But sometimes our perception of them make them worse than they really are!
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I believe with the right strategies & plans & actions I can handle my obstacles! ‘I’ve. Never done this b4’ ‘I don’t have the right connections ‘ I don’t have enough $$’ Yes Yes I can have it all I do have the power to create
very true, some of the fears are realities that need to be dealt with such as MONEY while some others are deeply rooted insecurities deriving from not good enough, which are mere projections, learning in the field of holistic healing is constant which is my passion, in the meanwhile I know enough, walked enough to help healing many lives, in the area of supporting mindset, lifestyle and food choices, especially the love of my special tribe, burnout wornout entrepreneurs like I used to be …
This was an “Aha” exercise because I realized my obstacles are not lack of support from others nor being sabotaged by my husband, but my own procrastination, my feelings of overwhelm because I take on too many things, and my fear of what being successful would look like. Who would I be and what responsibilities would I then take on?
I am my own saboteur. Who do I think I am, at 68, that could make a difference in the world? It’s already been said or done.
loving it !!! this is me all day i procrastinate on purpose fear of my own success not wanting to do it alone
I know I can do better but I don’t have the right conection or the correct tools, enough money etc.
Money: strategy required!
Masterminding !!
TBD … Stay Tuned 🙂 #wilabeDNA
Comment…proper connections I require(strategy),a support group I require(belief),my strange speech conversation problm(strategy)
Comment…accent(s) ,money(s), mastermind group absence(s)
Hi Tammy,Thanks so much for sharing your post op info. It rlaely helps to talk with other people who are going through the same thing. I had my surgery in a day surgery center. I was given a pain block during surgery so it keeps the pain away for up to 24 hours. About 11 p.m. the night of my surgery the block wore off and the pain kicked in. My Dr. told me to start taking the pain meds ( Percocet) prior to the block wearing off which I did but it did not help much. For the next 48 hours or so even taking the pains meds at the full prescribed dose I could not get my pain under control. I did call the Drs. office and the nurse said to take the Percocets every 3 hours for 3 doses. It did not help much. I just toughed it out until things got better. I have had many orthopedic surgeries but the pain with this one was pretty bad. This seems like a big surgery where a couple of days in the hospital would be beneficial with a pain pump or something stronger than the Percocet. It sounds like you were able to stay in the hospital for a few days.It took me an hour and a half but I was able to get my boot on this morning. It feels very large and clunky and is heavy to lift. It is pretty uncomfortable. My incisions are hitting the sides. Hopefully this will get better when I get my staples out Friday.The rocking motion was from the splint being a bit loose I guess.It just feels as if my ankle is not stable in it. I’m hoping I can sleep in the boot tonight. Does the knee walker work well for you? What kind do you have? I have heard the RollerAid is the most stable. I’m not a tiny person. I agree the lack in independence is rough.Donna
It was very helpful making this bulleted list, and gratifying as well as illuminating to see that out of the six items, two were beliefs and four require strategies! That actually gives me a lot of hope because with the right support beliefs can be changed, and with the right support strategies solve real problems!
The only realistic minor obstacle was money and timing.Both solveable.The rest of the obstacles were founded on unfounded
fears,mainly connected to people.I always thought l was “Tough “and “independent”, but this exercise showed me
how l am so vulnerable,insecure and dependant on belonging—my christian beliefs and what my friends will say.
The Reality is the people who really love me my kids and my partner are not the obstacle though my doubter
constantly hinted so.Wow !!! I am so relieved.I can actually make my dream come true .
This exercise was a great revealation .The “B” and “S” are Trully BS
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B – You can’t make money doing this
B – You aren’t creative enough to make something meaningful
B – You will look so foolish when it all fails
B – There are already so many people doing what you do; how will you succeed?
S – You don’t have time to make this happen; in order to make time, you’ll have to abandon the family you love
B – Who do you think you are? Everybody wants to be somebody big in this world; what makes you so special?
B – You’re just chasing money, and it’s bad to be motivated by making money
this is almost exactly what I came up with. remarkable.
This was an excellent exercise. I came up with a list of 20 things. 11 were strategies and 9 were limiting beliefs (and several of those were false beliefs).
1) Creating connections with the right people. S
2) Having the money to pay for the events S
3) Organising the best team to carry out required actions for events S
I realised my obstacles that were growing larger with each passing moment could be contained in three bullets ( S.) . thanks
1. I can’t do it because I don’t have a portfolio or the right industry contacts. – B
2. I can’t do it because I lack the skills. – S
3. I don’t know how much it will cost me. – B
4. I might not be talented enough to earn a living from it. – B